You’ve probably seen Harry Shum Jr. on shows like Glee and Grey’s Anatomy, but off-screen, he’s been happily married to Shelby Rabara since 2015. Rabara is also in the entertainment world as an actress and dancer, with credits in movies like 17 Again and TV shows such as 2 Broke Girls. She’s even voiced characters in Steven Universe and Toy Story 5. Before acting, she was a Laker Girl from 2004 to 2006.
Shum and Rabara have kept their relationship low-key, but he once shared that their first date was watching the movie Dreamgirls in 2006. They tied the knot in a beautiful ceremony in Costa Rica on November 21, 2015, with Glee costars like Kevin McHale and Jenna Ushkowitz there to celebrate.
The couple has a daughter named Xia, born in March 2019. They even wrote a children’s book together, Martee Dares to Dance, in 2024, inspired by their love for dance and family.
Now, Shum is set to dedicate a foxtrot to Rabara on Dancing With the Stars during Dedication Night on October 20, 2026. He, Rabara, and his dance partner Jenna Johnson have been teasing the performance on social media, lip-syncing to a Glee song to build excitement.
